Recently, my good friend Joe Martin told me that everything he ever did well in his life was from a simple 2-step formula.
- He asked.
- He did.
He asked people who had the results he wanted.
He did what they said.
What about being a dad? Who do we ask?
Even if we don’t have a live human in our life, God has given us a great cloud of witnesses that surround us (Romans 11:1-12:1), and many of them were great dads!
Think of Noah.
He epitomizes the struggle that we face as dads maybe more than anything else; the struggle with the question, “What’s really important?”
Think of a time that you wanted to focus on work, and your children wanted you. They simply wanted you without regard for the clock.
Maybe you were getting ready to go to work. Maybe it was when you were walking out the door for work. Maybe you were in the middle of working.
It doesn’t matter. You are then hit with the struggle…the question.
What’s really important?
Obviously, your work is the most important, because without your income, you can’t feed your family.
Or, is it?
Obviously, the children are the most important thing. They are your children, given to you by God. Anybody can do your job. But only you can raise your children. Right?
Ummm, is that true?
And with this, the struggle becomes real. What’s really important? When your young children are tugging at you with heart-melting cries of, “Daddy, daddy!”…when your adult children text you in the middle of your most important business meeting ever, and ask, “Dad, can you talk? I really need to talk with you.”
The struggle is real.
You may have already realized that I was setting up the quandary to make a point.
Both your work, and your children, are important.
“But Frederic, anybody can do my job…only I can raise my children!”
That’s not exactly true. Yes, only YOU are their dad. Whether biological, adopted, foster, step, it makes no difference. You are their dad and are in their life positioned there by God almighty. So, yes, be their dad.
But, ONLY YOU can do YOUR job the way God expects YOU to do it.
Do you really think that the job getting done is God’s main concern?
No. It’s HOW we do the job. (Colossians 3:23)
So, in the most wicked age ever, Noah saved all of his children. He was a great dad.
But also, with the 120 year job of engaging in the most arduous and taxing engineering and construction project that the world has (maybe) ever seen, he got the job done. He was a great dad.
And let’s not forget, continuing the human race lineage until the Savior was born was at stake.
Had Noah not done his job as an engineer, and his job as a dad who was to disciple his children, history would look very different.
Let’s learn from Noah. Let’s focus on our children, because they are important.
Let’s focus on our jobs, because they are important.
How do you balance both?
And therein lies the struggle.
But don’t stress about it. We are up for the challenge.
Let’s be great dads, like Noah.