Meet Frederic

About Me

Hello! Thanks for checking out my website!

My name is Frederic Gray, and I am an expert in turning. No, not turning a car. Just ask my wife and children. I am the king of hitting curbs when I turn. The minivan we have now is one we had to buy when I totaled, yes totaled, our last minivan when I hit a curb on a turn.  How could I total a minivan while turning and hitting a curb?

Don’t ask. It’s not pretty.

No, what I mean is, I am an expert in making turns in life.

After living a life where I was super guarded and didn’t trust anyone, I made a turn and now I have a loving wife and joyFULL children.


After being grossly overweight (over 400 lbs.), out of shape, and unhealthy in every way, I made a turn, and now pass every health exam I take with flying colors. I still have a ways to go, but hey, Rome wasn’t built in a day!

After starting a direct marketing agency, and then successfully failing with that business, I made a turn. Since that turn I have helped a lot of businesses, and people, grow in their sales and marketing efforts.

After witnessing every kind of abuse you can imagine in my immediate family (yes, every kind) and walking around with so much anger and rage I was a walking time bomb, I made a turn, and now I have zero anger, I have forgiven everyone in my life, and I am filled with boundless joy! Since making my turn, I have become an expert in destroying excuses, being happy (no matter what!), and living life with all your might!

After growing up in the public school system, working in the public school system, and being a public school advocate to the point that I was not only anti-homeschool, I was anti-private school, I made a turn. Since making that turn, I am not only a homeschool dad, I also encourage other homeschoolers along their journey.

Homeschool Graduation 1

With parents who weren’t married, I grew up wanting to have babies with different girls…no commitment, no relationship, no marriage. I didn’t even give a serious thought to getting married until I was 17. Well, I made a turn, and now I not only have an awesome marriage, a lot of my time is spend helping people with their marriages, either privately, or publicly.

Our Wedding

I had my first suicidal thoughts in fourth grade. I have more memories than I care to admit of me laying in bed, clutching my tear-drenched pillow, and literally just wanting to die.  I made a crucial turn, became a Christian at 21, and continue to experience something that I want for everyone–the blessings that come when you accept God’s love.

In Your presence is fullness of joy, In Your right hand there are pleasures forever. –Psalm 16:11

As I said, I am an expert in making turns.

And that’s what I want for you. To make a turn.

With your blessing, I will give you everything I possibly can to empower you to make turns. But not just any turns. The best turns! Exciting, exhilarating, inspiring, liberating, never-look-back-on-your-old-life-again-cuz “look out world, here you come!” kind of turns!

Soooo, what do you think? Are you game? If so, then come with me.

Let’s go for a ride.

I want to show you something.


About the Website

Another blog? Another website? Is that what the world really needs?

That’s what half my brain said after the other half said, “Hey, I know something else we can add to your plate! A blog!”

But alas, here it is. Allow me to explain.

I am a servant. I serve God, my wife, my children, my friends, my church family…pretty much about everyone. (What makes the “pretty much everyone” part really fun is that some people don’t want to be served…more on that later!)

So, as a Christian who has been blessed to have my crack at helping people–sometimes one on one, sometimes speaking to groups–I am always looking for opportunities to serve.

Well, an interesting thing has happened in my life. I have too many people to serve! What I mean is, I have gotten to the point where I don’t have enough time to meet the demand for it.

Those of you who have heard me speak to your group know first hand how I throw myself into everything I do, and everybody who is there. I live to encourage people. And when I am brought in to speak to a group, my focus is to make that talk the best I have ever given. And then, as many of you know, I hang around for a while to talk to people individually. Again, I love that! I live for it.

That brings me here, to my blog/website. My desire to serve others has exceeded my time to do it.

Well, this site is a way for me to connect with people. It is going to be a vehicle for me to impact more people, to increase the scope of love and positivity that I want to spread to the world, all to the glory of God.

So, here it is. My attempt to encourage people with biblical solutions for life and the family. Marriage? Of course. Leadership? Got you covered. Parenting? You bet. Entrepreneurship? You’ve got to pay for those babies somehow. Personal growth? Indeed. Family? Absolutely.

So, check it out. Sign up to receive my blog posts in your email. If they stink, unsubscribe. If they are a blessing to you, then to God be the glory.

If you want to have some extra fun, click on the “Ask Frederic” button the right side of the page and leave me a voice mail with your question. I will respond to your question in my blog with either a written post or a video.

Either way, I promise you I will give you my all, my best stuff. Count on it.

See you soon!


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8 thoughts on “Meet Frederic

  1. Frederic – First time for me to get to know who you are was at the FPEA convention last month … awesome! Thanks for your great giftings to the body of Christ. Your sharing really challenged me on many levels!

  2. I knew there was something very special about you when I met you a few years ago. God has a very special plan for your life!!

  3. Hello Frederic,
    Fran Farmer here – I am always game for personal growth and I miss the church services while I’m away. You’re a good man who does throw himself into the service of others which is what draws me to returning every chance I get.
    I too, am a servant. I serve those who do not have a voice in court by getting to know the children who are in the court system, both through the state department and through the judicial system. Sometimes these children do overlap, but I help to uncover things that may have been the whole cause to their situation. This is what makes it so very rewarding to me, to be the blessing in their young lives before it’s too late.
    I will be leaving for Florida for a short trip tomorrow. I do have a lot to do, but I’d also like to talk with you and Heather about a non-church issue before I leave. I think when you get the full picture, you will find it may be the blessing you’ve been praying for. How do I know that? We have the same Spirit that lives within us.
    When you get this ‘Comment’ give me a call 812-572-2076. I will be unavailable tonight after 7:00-9:00 and most of tomorrow afternoon. Tonight I have a thing with friends and tomorrow afternoon there’s a family team meeting and then 2 court hearings (Feb. 25th). When that lets out, I’m headed back home for a quick stop, prior to starting my trip down south. I will be coming alone, and have my headset with me, so don’t hesitate to call anytime.
    Please add me to your email list.
    I’m looking forward to seeing you and the church body this Sunday.